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Pastoral 2012

Biblical Counsels For The Upbringing Of Our Children - I


  • Give thanks to God always for the children He has blessed you with! When God gives us children, we must view them as God’s gifts and thank God for the opportunity to have them. “He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD” (Psalm 113:9). “Children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward” (Psalm 127:3).
  • Begin praying with your children from birth. You will be amazed how quickly they begin to pray with you! “Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will teach you the fear of the LORD” (Psalm 34:11).
  • Help them to know Jesus as early as possible. “But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 19:14).
  • Read the Bible to your children. Sharing the Bible, during a family time together, can be a wonderful spiritual experience. A daily family worship/devotion is an excellent opportunity to share the Word with the children. “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). “We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: that the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: that they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments” (Psalm 78:4-7).
  • Have patience with your children. Listen to them; don’t just hear what they are saying. Give them your attention and observe them when they speak to you. Then you can know more about their problems, concerns and difficulties that you need to bring to the Lord in intercessory prayer for them. The Lord expects us to pity our children and know their infirmities. In fact, it is the same way that the Lord deals with us all. Psalm 103:13-14 says, “Like as a father pitieth his children, so the LORD pitieth them that fear him. For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.”
  • Do everything possible to have Mum stay at home with the children. This is a great sacrifice for many women who have already established themselves in a career, or for families who have financial difficulty. God will provide, if you believe that He will make a way out of your problems. Tell the Lord your desire to obey His Word and ask Him for the provisions. As parents, there is no greater duty on this earth than raising our children in the Lord.

Scripture clearly teaches that the main job of a young mother is to be the manager of the house. Read the following: “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4-5). The words “keepers at home” is a translation of one Greek word (oikourgous) that means “home-worker”. A mother has so much to do at home in the rearing of her children and lovingly supporting her husband. So once again, Scripture tells us, “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14). Like the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31, may all Christian mothers learn to give top priority to the things at home that she may become a true blessing to her children and husband. According to God’s Word, she shall be praised – “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” (Proverbs 31:28).

  • Watch over your children diligently! Study your children! Know who they are, what they love, even the bad “bents” in them. Know where they are, whom they associate with, what they are watching on TV, what sort of music they listen to, etc. Parents must get involved and stay involved. We have only a short period of time to raise our children. In that short period, let us strive to train them with good Christian moral values.
  • Proverbs 20:11 tells us that when we observe a child closely, we can know his good and bad inclinations – “Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right.” According to each child’s habits and character, we must provide the necessary training. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Parents must try to eliminate any tendency towards bad behaviour. They must also nurture talents and commendable behaviour that a child manifests. Give your children responsibilities early in life. Children trained in responsibility grow up to be selfreliant and dependable adults.


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