Pastoral Exhortation - Series of 2011
Young Men, Be Like Men!
Written by Rev (Dr) Prabhudas Koshy Sunday, 03 April 2011
Quit you like men” says the Word of God to the Church (1 Corinthians 16:13). But, contrary to the exhortation of God’s Word, we see young men within the churches of our time behaving like women. What a pity! The secularization of modern church is now taking on a new twist. Feminization of the western man has been spreading fast into our Asian communities; and that is finding its way into our churches as well.
I am shocked and perturbed to see the new culture that is fast changing our young men’s appearance and behaviour. The feministic trend among teenage boys and young adults is too common to go unnoticed. Their hairstyle, dressing, conversation, mannerism, all have a feminine flair.
Our already fragile home-life and church-life will suffer even worse fate with this new culture that affects the mindset of our new generation of youths against biblical wisdom and counsel. Manliness in man is God-given, and for a man to behave like the opposite sex is a perversion of God’s design concerning his role. The mettle and resolve of manliness is now being not only scorned at but even trampled upon. Unless we deal with the current situation by firmly teaching our boys and young men not to conform to the world’s perverted culture, and to act as real men as God has designed them to be, our worst fears will soon be realized.
It is perturbing, firstly, because men are becoming more irresponsible and lazy as we see reversal of roles among men and women, whether be it at home or in the church. Scripture clearly teaches us that a man should be the leader and provider at home, and woman, the helpmeet. While man ‘tends the garden’ and provide food for the family, wife is to be his assistant by managing the home. Today, many couples have reversed this God-ordained role. The husband is his wife’s helpmate. More and more men stay home from work to babysit the children while the wife does her job!
Boys and young men must grow up with an understanding that they should be strong and responsible to look after their wives and children. But instead of being ready to provide for and protect their wives, today many young men look to their wives to be providers for them and the rest of the home. What an irresponsible thinking! These men expect the women to work hard and bring home money (women are also expected to attend to the household chores). In the church too, more and more women are burdened with the labours that God has given to men. Ordination of women as pastors and elders is yet another sad result of the feminization of the church. Men are increasingly becoming disinterested in the godly leadership of the church and home.
It is perturbing, secondly, because men seem to lose their resolve, strength and courage. There is too much sentimentalism among men today. It would not take much effort to see how men are losing objectiveness in their thinking and pursuit, as they are constantly told to pay attention to their feelings.
Emotionalism is not for men. Men may be affected by deep emotions, but through prayer and faith in God’s promise they must rise to face the challenges. Men will do well if they take heed to the words God has spoken to Job who was vexed and tormented – “Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me” (Job 38:3; cf. 40:7).
It is perturbing, finally, because womanish men are becoming an emblem of ‘the gay culture’ of these perilous days. The most heinous outcome of effeminate culture is homosexuality. Men are getting together for sexual pleasure, and some are behaving like women. “Men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet” (Romans 1:27). How sad is that even men with wives are now pursuing ‘gay relationships’ with men. The gay culture is also widespread among teenagers and youths, leading their souls captive to everything ungodly and vile.
O dear Christian, wake up from your spiritual slumber. “Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong” (1 Corinthians 16:13).