Pastoral Exhortation - Series of 2010

Important Advice For Parents With Young Children

Written by Rev (Dr) Prabhudas Koshy Sunday, 11 April 2010


Worship is not just for adults but also for children (cf. Deuteronomy 31:11-13; Joshua 8:35; 2 Chronicles 20:13; Nehemiah 8:2-3; 12:43; Matthew 14:21; 15:38; Mark 10:13-14). For this reason, we bring our children to church. Gethsemane B-P Church welcomes children to join the adults in the worship of God. Children are part of our church family, and their spiritual nurture is a great concern to our church. So we welcome them to our church’s most sacred activity, even the worship of God.

Having all the children in the worship is a wonderful experience to both the children and the whole church. Their coming to worship is vital to the church’s future. We pray that through their participation in worship, they would learn to worship God in a biblical and solemn manner. We also need to instruct and guide them to have the right mindset and mannerism when they come before the Lord in worship.

One of the ways to prepare children for a proper worship of God is by conducting family worship daily. This can be just a 15-minute spiritual discipline for the family, where everyone sits together to sing a song, read the Scripture and pray. This spiritual exercise is a good avenue to teach your children the behaviour expected of them during the Sunday Worship.

The children should sit quietly and attentively, endeavouring – to the best of their ability – to participate reverently and intelligently in the worship. To attain such a goal requires that parents be diligent and thorough in preparing their children for attendance at and participation in the public meetings. In order to help parents, and the church, accomplish their Biblical responsibility, please consider the following guidelines, which I hope will act as an aid to such preparation. (The ideas reflected in the following sections are not entirely mine. I have adapted some from various books and articles with changes to suit our congregation.)


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If it is predictable that you will need to take your child out of a service to train or discipline him or her, aim to take seats near the doors of the meeting room, where you can get in and out with least distraction to others. When leaving or entering, try to do so with a minimum of fuss and noise. Other members of the church – ushers, for example – might be able to render a helping hand to you. Return to your seats as soon as possible with minimal distraction.

Remember that the children are to participate intelligently in worship. Diversionary activities (drawing, writing, reading other children’s books, playing, etc.) are not part of the worship of God. Neither are eating and drinking (except for the Lord's Supper), which can be distracting for the child, yourself and others. These things will undermine a child's active and intelligent involvement in the worship of God.

Infants and toddlers

Toddlers are often restless and fidgety. They are also prone to cry aloud. Parents of infants and toddlers are invited to use “the cry room” section. If you are in the main worship hall, please be seated near the door, so you can easily exit the worship hall to attend to your child who is crying. If your child is getting unusually restless, please consider using “the cry room”. Or you may take your child out of the worship hall with as little disturbance as possible. Please seek help from the ushers, if you need assistance. Quietly return to your seat as soon as possible after attending to the child.

Parents who are in “the cry room”, remember not to engage in conversation or activities that will distract others from concentrating on the worship. Let us endeavour to keep the solemnity of worship at all times. As much as possible, make sure that your movements and activities are least disturbing to others around you. Let all parents be mutually helpful and forbearing.

The Lord calls out to all our children, saying, “Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will teach you the fear of the LORD” (Psalm 34:11). “Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts” (Isaiah 28:9). Parents, come with your children to worship the Lord!